People who inspire me
“And you asked me what I want this year and I try to make this kind and clear just a chance that maybe we’ll find better days cause I don’t need boxes wrapped in strings and designer love and empty things just a chance that maybe we’ll find better days” Everyone has their own individual problems that they have to deal with each and every day. It can be as insignificant as forgetting an umbrella before a thunderstorm, or as life changing as a pregnancy. For me, it changed my life when my sister wrote me a note, telling me she was pregnant. My life was never the same from that day on and someone whom has made a total impact in my world is my nephew.
He made me set goals and define a future for myself before he could even say two words. Therefore I believe that my sisters pregnancy made me more open minded to people’s situations and it changed my life when my nephew was born. At one point or another everyone has had a family problem. It is bound to happen and there is nothing that can be done to prevent it. Whether it is a death of a loved one, a fight, a divorce, or whatever it doesn’t matter because nobody’s perfect.
This is something that became apparent to me when my older sister Kelsey announced her pregnancy. . When my sister was 19 she became pregnant and that was quite an obstacle for our family at the time. Since she was so young, wasn’t married and didn’t have a college education she was often looked down upon. She is smart, beautiful, and strong in my eyes, so it was so hard for me to believe that she could have made such a huge mistake by getting pregnant.
Although she got her GED when she was 17, it was obvious that she never forgave herself for not finishing high school and thought she was as dumb as they come. Her feelings toward herself only escalated throughout her pregnancy because of what she believed everyone thought of her. A time comes to mind when we went to the mall and everyone was giving her cold, empty glares and stares. Kelsey is the kind of person who always has to be strong no matter what. It goes without saying that she does not want to be viewed as weak so she never lets anything get to her. However that day I could see it on her face and in her eyes that she was hurt and wanted things to be different.
When she saw those kids in the toy store with their parents buying them everything they wanted, I think that is when she realized that she wouldn’t be able to do that for person. It was at that moment in time I realized how I couldn’t judge people the way I had before. If were being honest, I used to be a snotty little girl who thought that everyone sucked and no one could ever quite understand because I thought everyone hated me before they even got to know me. Looking back on that now I realized how naive and stupid I was because that everyone was obviously not out to get me. Even though having a baby at the time probably seemed like the worst thing that could happen at her age, now she knows that it’s the best thing that could have ever happened to her.
In addition to her happiness through having a child, it was the best thing that has happened to me as well. Only a few lucky people who get to have a good life, got there on their own. There are a lot of people who have affected and changed my life. However, there is someone who has had the greatest affect on my life and that person is my nephew Joey. A few years ago I was a completely different person than who I am today. Before going to high school it had crossed my mind that everything would be different than how it was before.
During my freshman, and sophomore years of high school I was a lost, angry, and impossible little child. At the time I didn’t know that the thing to save me from myself would in fact be a child himself. When my sister told me she was pregnant I was really happy about it but mainly because my best friend has a lot of nieces and nephews already and I had always been a little jealous of that. What I didn’t know that day she made her announcement was how much he would really change my life. Before he was born, I was pretty sure that dropping out of school and getting my GED could lead to an okay future that I would be content with having.
My sister Kelsey who had gotten pregnant had taken that path and she seemed to be having a good life in my eyes. I didn’t realize until after he was born that she had a long and bumpy road ahead of her. Kelsey had to go on welfare and her boyfriend had to support them working two jobs that had him working from 7 in the morning, until the late hours of the night. One night when I was with my sister she realized she ran out of formula so we had to go to the store to get some. We got there, got the formula and waited in the line like we normally would do.
The cashier asked for her food stamps to get the formula, and the machine that processed them wouldn’t work. They told her that she couldn’t use them there that day and ruined them so they couldn’t be able to work anywhere else. Kelsey had to use every cent she had in her pocket to buy the formula that night and she went to the car and was crying. That was the moment when I realized that I had to stay in school. That was a life changing moment for me because it made me realizes that I needed to set goals for myself and get out of this one horse town that I live in.
Right now they are both doing amazing and off the food stamps and living a wonderful life, I love them both to death, and they are literally my favorite people in the whole world. However they both made a huge impact on my life and made me set goals for myself, because I know now what I didn’t know then. That being, I deserve to have a better life than they had for themselves at that time. Joey, just by being born, made me realize that I don’t want to settle for a just “okay” life. I want to have a fantastically wonderful life, where I can buy him cars and planes for him in order to thank him for helping me pave a path for myself in life. To conclude, my life would never be the same if it wasn’t for my sister getting pregnant at such a young age.
It helped us grow closer than we were before, and helped me mature as a person. My goals in life would not be in existence if it was not for my nephew Joey. He helped clear my eyes and let me see what I would like to accomplish for myself and showed me that I want to be able to give him, and my future children anything they want to have and that I need an education in order to do that. Everyone has a moment when their life changes. Mine just happened to be when I was with my sister during her pregnancy at a young age and being with my nephew afterwards. Even though these things happen all of the time, I know that I am different from other people because of it.
I was there with her through everything she and my nephew had to go through and that stays with a person. My outlook on education, love and life changed because of it. At 17, I really don’t think a lot of people can seriously mean that and I think that makes me different in a way that I can be proud of.
